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My husband knows to quickly turn the channel if we happen to be surfing through and land on one of the shows that spotlight adoption reunions because I always end up invariably yelling at the TV out of sheer frustration at only portraying that first, highly emotional, almost always tear-jerking moment of the initial adoptee/birth mother hug. To me, it’s kind of setting adoptees (and birth parents and adoptive parents) up for failure. Although it was truly an incredible, joyous…..
Please keep in mind that my perspective is from the other side of the fence, but here’s what I’d offer birth parents: 1. I always hated when other people referred to my biological parents being as being my “real” mom or dad. My “real” mom and dad were the ones who rocked me for all hours of the night when I had colic, walked me to my first day of school, sent me to prom, were there to hold me…..
Although the baseline mechanics of adoption are somewhat the same: one set of parents gives up a child and another set takes that child in, the circumstances around it can vary widely. Some adoptees know who their birth parents are and keep in touch and some are like me and had no idea who they were. Whatever the circumstances, here’s the advice I’d offer to any adopted child: 1. It’s ok to wonder why you were given up, what…..
During that last year, I lost both my biological mother and adopted dad within a 4 month period. I was traveling between the two of them and helping to care for them however I could. It was grueling at times and with the rest of life happening, I rarely had time to let it all sink in. I was far too busy with the mechanics of getting through a given day to take a moment to feel what was happening…..
I was given up for adoption in 1968 with nearly the same amount of secrecy that is used to protect the nuclear launch codes around the identity of the individuals involved. Although I always knew I was adopted, I also knew that the likelihood of my finding my biological parents was pretty much zero, so I never bothered to ask, let alone actually search. Then, some passing comments made by my daughter’s pediatrician while I was having a meltdown in…..
Although being adopted wasn’t completely unique, I quickly realized that being adopted in the era that I was and finding my biological parents nearly on accident and developing the relationships we did, was absolutely unique. For a number of years, friends, family and acquaintances that heard the story always said, “what an incredible story! you should write a book!” It turns out that the story got a lot more interesting than just the headline of “adopted child finds biological parents”…..
Hello and welcome to all of my readers! I’m excited to share my story with all of you and walk you through not only my journey as an adoptee that found her biological parents, but also the journey of all of the messy life that happens before and after that that you don’t see on all of the adoption reunion shows. A little bit about me: I’m currently a married mother of two adult daughters and along with a successful…..
